SAFE SCROLL - 3-MINUTE CALM RESET CHEAT SHEET

Use this when emotions are rising around devices.
The goal is to lower intensity first, then teach.

STEP 1 (0:00-0:30) - REGULATE YOURSELF FIRST
- Drop your voice by one level.
- Unclench your jaw and shoulders.
- Say one short sentence only.

Script:
"I can see this is hard. We are going to reset first, then talk."

STEP 2 (0:30-1:30) - CO-REGULATE
- Move closer without crowding.
- Keep instructions simple.
- Avoid explaining rules during escalation.

Script:
"Breathe with me. In for four, out for four."
"You're safe. We can handle this."

STEP 3 (1:30-2:30) - CLEAR BOUNDARY, NO DEBATE
- State one boundary.
- State one immediate next step.
- Do not negotiate in the hot moment.

Script:
"Screen is paused now. We will continue after calm bodies."
"Next step is water and two minutes on the sofa."

STEP 4 (2:30-3:00) - REPAIR + NEXT PLAN
- Validate feeling, not behavior.
- Keep it short and forward-looking.

Script:
"I know you were frustrated."
"Next time we will use the 10-5-1 warning and reset sooner."

POST-INCIDENT REFLECTION (1 MINUTE FOR PARENT)
Ask:
1) What was the trigger?
2) What was my first sentence?
3) What one change will I make next time?

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